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Is your kid always ready with an excuse for every missed commitment or question you have? Have you noticed a lack of responsibility in your kid of late? Does your kid try and put the blame on someone as a regular habit?
If you feel your kid has been displaying any of the behavioural signs mentioned above, maybe it’s time to start the responsibility talk.
Following are some effective steps on how you can teach responsibility to your little one:-
Show The Link
Your kid may be too young to understand the concept of an act and its related consequence. Try and tell in easy terms how simple, everyday activities can have a positive impact. For example, if your kid has scored well in a school test, point out that because your kid studied hard, the test results came out so good. This will show your kid that studying hard equals to good grades. On the other hand, if your kid did not do so well in the class test, point out that because your kid did not revise at home, the test results came out not so good. Pointing out to your kid what he did and how it brought about a reaction will help him understand the link.
Assign Responsibility According To Age
It is always a good idea to start assigning simple tasks that are age-appropriate. If your kid is very young, you can always ask him to start cleaning up after play time. Tasks like filling up the water bowl for the pet, setting the table and other similar simple tasks are a great way to start. These will make your kid responsible for the small acts they are assigned.
At any given time, your kid should be able to come up to you and speak without hesitation or fear. Speak to your kid regularly and make sure you are a good listener. Any time that your kid comes up to you to share something, listen without losing your cool. Even if it is something you may not approve of, do not immediately judge or criticise. This will ease your kid into telling you the truth.
Make Your Kid Feel Involved
Whatever you are doing, try and include your kid in the same. If you are going out for a party, select a few options and ask your kid which one is the best. Make sure you give few options. Giving two options to kids who are very young would yield better results. Ask your kid’s opinion where you think it can be used. This will make your kid feel important and grown up. It will also encourage a feeling of responsibility.
Praise Your Kid’s Efforts
When you see your kid showing responsibility, make sure you praise the effort. Tell your kid exactly what you liked about the behaviour. If your kid has done a specific job that you feel was quite responsible, appreciate your kid’s understanding and sincerity for it.
Be The Example
Your kid will emulate almost all your behavior, without you or your kid realizing it. You may have promised a fun evening out at the mall, but ended up cancelling due to work commitments. You may forget all about it, but this could set a tone for your kid. Promising something and not coming through with it may not look like such a big deal to you. But it surely is a glaring mistake on your part. It would imprint in his mind that it is okay to not honor your commitments. Try to stick to your promises as much as you can.
Let Him Figure It Out
If your kid is having trouble with something, do not immediately rush in to help. Let your kid figure out a solution and understand what can be done differently. If your kid is asking you for your help, guide your kid through the situation. Do not offer immediate solutions. Let your kid handle the situation himself and try to come out with solutions. This will help him feel accountable.
These simple tips can be implemented in your kid’s daily activity routine. Based on your kid’s age, choose steps that will help your kid understand the meaning of responsibility. Do not rush into it. Keep your cool, as this can be quite a change for your kid, especially if your kid has not felt the need to be responsible till now.